My whole life, I’ve thought I knew myself. I did. However, that was only a part of me – the “adapted child” part. I’ve been working hard to be someone. Someone who’d be perceived as a “good “person: reliable, responsible, loyal, polite, and organised.

I’ve been getting more and more clarity on my journey as a coach and as a person. The more I work with clients and notice what doing this job touches in me, the more dots get connected for me.

We are all systems, and we live in multiple bigger systems. We all have different parts of ourselves, “voices” in our heads, many feelings and thoughts – the whole world inside every individual. Our bodies are systems.

I’m okay – just the way I am. I don’t need to fix myself. I don’t need to be in a constant fight. I don’t need to be stuck in reflections on what needs to change.

Until some moment, I’d never thought that people can have different ways of making decisions. Then I noticed friends often asking me how I was able to choose fast.

Who am I? What do I want? What will I never agree to? Until the age of 25, I thought I knew it all: I felt confident, self-reliant, and free.