July 29, 2025 by Ekaterina Kuznetsova
I’m Okay The Way I Am
I’m okay – just the way I am. I don’t need to fix myself. I don’t need to be in a constant fight. I don’t need to be stuck in reflections on what needs to change.
The ideas above – I’ve been aware of them for many years, same as many intelligent people would. However, I was able to FEEL the meaning of those words only in the recent year.
It was not really about me even being overly critical to myself. It was more like me being always busy with thinking how I wanted to improve myself and my life. Not always because I was so unhappy, but just because “it can always be even better” (right?!). It’s like living in the future: imagining how life could be and brainstorming how to get there. Then at some point it became difficult for me to draw a line: which characteristics of me are unhelpful patterns that I’d benefit from changing and which are actually the characteristics that make me be ME.
In all the analysis and running after the “better future”, it’s very easy to lose sight of who you are, what you need, and what your desires are – your core identity.
There’s no secret pill or quick solution to reconnecting to your true self and truly feeling “I’m okay”, “I’m enough”. It’s a process of gradually learning to see yourself, here and now (not your ideal future self), and trust yourself. When you accumulate more of the moments when you felt “ah, I knew that”, “that’s so me, I feel so me”, you notice feeling more relaxed, steady, confident, and free.
You are free to be the way you are. And you can get to that freedom only by looking at yourself and accepting all the different sides of yourself. Then you feel open to explore and to change – out of curiosity and love, not out of desire to fix yourself to avoid discomfort from certain parts of you. Even those “unwanted “parts of you are YOU, and they may definitely be of help at times. It’s all a matter of balance, and free choice.
Reconnection to the true me has helped me do what I am doing now: showing up in the form of these texts and posts online, doing what I find truly meaningful and fascinating with people (coaching sessions). I feel energized and curious on this journey to myself. I feel generative and authentic. I choose to be ME and let the world see me the way I am, exactly where I am now – not perfect, not my ideal imaginary self, but just REAL.
How do you feel about these thoughts? Let’s talk. Let’s connect and exchange our views.